The Heart Language Tool

• Do you feel stressed and harassed during the day, like you're always doing things to please others rather than yourself?

• Do you have problems making decisions about insignificant matters?

• Are you unsure about what it is you really want?

• Do you find yourself doing things you really don’t want to do and continually acting out of obligation?

Part of being an adult is learning to put the needs of others, such as our children or employer, ahead of ourselves. But we can become so used to doing what we feel we should do, or living by the expectations of others that we lose touch with ourselves.

If we stop listening to our hearts voice, eventually we won't recognize it. Then we wonder why our life is so dry and un-spontaneous.

We need to re-open the conversation with our heart - to remember how to listen to our heart and not just our head.

How to recognize your hearts voice: when you're feeling stressed or that you feel you have lost your centre, ask yourself two questions,

1. “What am I feeling now?”

2. “I would like …?”

Try to listen to the first thought – which will be from your heart –– not your head which comes in with chatter and rationalizing afterwards.

If the message from your heart is possible and practical – then do it, eg. take a break, call a friend, pop out for a coffee, jump up from your desk and shout “Yes!”.

If it is not realistic just note your hearts message until its convenient to follow through, but be careful – this habit is life changing!

Why not try following your heart and doing one spontaneous thing every day?

And … if you really want to be immature have some fun in a boring, staid grown up situation ask yourself:

“What would I do if I was 5?”